Incoming UCLA Freshman Winnie Chen was probably pretty excited to start the best four years of her life with new friends, until she got an absurdly ridiculous email from one of her new roommates. Regardless of how aggressive or crazy you thought your own freshman year roommate was, this chick Ashly (spelled without an “e”) is a billion trillion times worse. After both Chen and her roommate, Guistinna Tun, failed to respond to an email from Ashly, Ashly sent this over to her new roommates.
Okay, so I’m not sure why neither of you responded back to my emails, but I don’t really care, just as long as you both know this and understand that I’m not gonna settle for anything less than what I’m gonna tell you that I’m gonna get once I arrive in the dorm [sic],” the email started out. It was also sent to Chen’s other roommate Guistinna Tun and included an insane list of demands for move-in day. “I’ll take the top bunk of the bunk bed that has a bottom and top bunk. I DO NOT want the single bunk where it has a desk underneath the top bunk so don’t try to leave me with that. I’m also taking one of the white closets. There should be two white closets and I’m taking one of them. I don’t care for which one it is, just know I’m taking one of them.
I want the desk that’s near the window. Plain and simple. I don’t care about who gets the bottom bunk but just know what I stated above is what I’m expecting once I arrive at the dorm and I won’t be in the mood for any arguing or other nonsense because one of you two deliberately disregard this email. If needed be I’ll turn it into a bigger situation so don’t try me.
Sorry but not that sorry for the attitude. I don’t like being ignored because that’s just rude but that’s what you both decided to do so I decided to make it clear now on the kind of person I am and what I will and will not take.
So as a final reminder: I am getting the top bunk of the bunk bed with the bed on the bottom, I am getting one of the white closets, and I’m getting the desk near the window. That’s fair enough to ask for considering that I’m giving up fighting for the bottom bunk.
Tun, Winnie Chen’s more normal, but still bad ass b*tch roommate, wasn’t going to just sit there and take it. So she wrote this email back in reply:
First and foremost, I was not ignoring you. Not only have I been incredibly busying moving houses this week and driving back and forth for more than three hours everyday, which leaves me little to no time to talk to my friends – much less check my email – but I’m not used to communicating with people through email. So please excuse me for being rusty at this. Plus, I we got in contact on Tuesday, and today is barely Thursday. A day’s difference shouldn’t be made into such a “BIGGER SITUATION.” That’s why I suggested we communicate through group chat on Facebook messenger, but its honestly okay if you don’t want to. I can settle with emailing.
Second I would like to say that me and Winnie are extremely easy going people. We’re chill and more than willing to compromise with one another, including you, and make decisions based on fairness. And we appreciate that you are letting us know your preferences from the get go. But… here is a list of things we don’t appreciate.
1. Assuming off the bat that we are ignoring you. Please, don’t play the victim. It’s petty.
2. You making all of these demands. While it may not like it to you, it seems like it to us.
3. Your attitude. GIIRRRL, WE HAVEN’T EVEN MET YET. But at this rate, I don’t think I wanna even meet you anymore #SORRYBUTNOTTHATSORRY
4. Your sense of entitlement… just because you gave up the BOTTOM BUNK. Please, there is more to life than the bottom bunk. And that doesn’t give you the excuse to automatically demand ‘THE TOP BUNK THAT HAS A BOTTOM AND TOP BUNK, ONE OF THE WHITE CLOSETS AND A DESK THAT’S NEAR THE WINDOW.”
Look I’m not here to fight with you. I hate being a bitch, but I am not going to allow anyone to talk to me or Winnie like that. You said “don’t try me” but you ended up trying me. So, here I am. I’d understand if you would want to chance roommates after reading this email, because honestly, that is how me and Winnie felt after reading yours. But if you’re willing to work this out and start over, then so are we. I’m all about being open minded and getting to know people. Just let me and Winnie know.
This is the email that Ashly sent back. While at least she can admit that she’s a “ticking time bomb,” she still sounds too crazy to be around.
But word of advice: while I stepped out of line with my attitude, you throwing it right back along with other snarky unnecessary comments is just fighting fire with fire. I’m mature enough to put out the fire myself once I see it spreading, but other people aren’t so I don’t think that was necessariliy the right way to handle the situation.
However like I said, the fact that you stuck up for you and winnie seemed pretty cool to me- I like people who know how to speak up for themselves but most importantly, for others too. So yeah, I don’t mind starting over considering the fact that I don’t get along with other people right off the bat because I’m not that much of a people person. So I’m not looking to find other roommates either.
I’m also really chill too. But as you can see from my previous email, I am like a ticking time bomb that sets off when certain things I don’t like happen to me. I went far with the assumptions that you both were ignoring me, but I wasn’t “playing victim” I truly believed I was being ignored because of how I was looking at the situation. My mind trails elsewhere when I’m not catching it on the tracks.
I’m an over analyzer which leads to over thinking at times. I do have anger issues that has only been going off recently because of personal stuff, one of the major ones being that I’m leaving home to go miles away. If that scares you then you can request another roommate. I have low tolerance for a lot of things and my patience level isn’t high at all. those are the three things I’ve been working on and plan on working on while in college too since it’s one of the best times to grow and develop into who you want to be.
So, now that I’ve said a little bit more about myself and my piece of the situation, if you’d like to request another roommate that’s fine. But if not that’s cool too, I’d appreciate if you would take the top bunk with the desk underneath (lol.)
Maybe the biggest thing to me is that this girl’s name is Ashly, but without an e. Like, are actually expecting a person whose own parents can’t give her a normal name to be normal? Absolutely not.
Also, shout out to the big nuts on Winnie Chen for sharing these email correspondences with all of Twitter.