How To Pick Up A Chick Without Pissing Off Her Friends

We’ve all been there: you saunter over to the cute girl you’ve been meaning to ask out for a while then out of nowhere comes her colossal BFF with an attitude. Best friends of the girl you are into can be your worst enemy: they will drag your “target” away, shoot you down and do everything to abort your chances of asking her to go on a date. Here are my top three reasons why this always happens and how you can handle picking up the girl of your dreams, whilst dealing with the girl of your nightmares.

Engage & Compliment Her Friend(s)

Is one noticeably cuter than the other? If so, how do you think the less attractive girl is going to feel if you hit on her best friend and then ignore her? Exactly. Don’t feed into the less attractive girl’s insecurities and the existing jealousy she may feel towards her cuter friend by being too direct with the girl you like. Don’t walk up the pair of them and say to the cutie, “Hey, I just had to come over and talk to you, as I think you’re gorgeous,” whilst ignoring her friend – you’re heading for trouble.

Instead engage, and compliment, them both, “I love how both of your styles are totally unique.” Or, “I’m curious as to what you guys are talking about. You’re totally engrossed, it’s all very Sex and the City.” This will make them both feel engaged, not enraged, towards you.

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Divide Your Attention

Make the cute girl, and her friend, warm to you even more by initially dividing your attention between them. Even if you have an opener that isn’t offensive, all your good work might be destroyed if you then focus entirely on the hottie and ignore her friend. Girls are very socially aware: if her friend is bored then the girl you like will send you off so as not to upset her friend. You can be a really cool guy who she is attracted to, but her bond towards her female friend is going to be a lot stronger than any obligation she may feel towards you.

So work to keep both women engaged in the interaction. Direct statements towards both of them, make eye contact with both girls and touch them (in a friendly way!) to keep both focused on you. If one starts to look bored, or turns away, re-engage her with a light touch to her shoulder or by specifically asking her opinion on something.

Work to keep the group together, and the friend won’t see you as a threat to her bond with her cute BFF.  They’ll often be smart enough to give you guys some alone time to go in for that kiss.

Maintain & Manage a Fun, Inclusive Vibe

Girls actually find it very attractive if you can get on with her really dull, and kinda mean, best friend. So it’s time to master of the art of creating a great “friendly vibe” with the friend, whilst being seductive with the girl you fancy.

You see, being socially attractive and seductive are two different parts of the same puzzle. Master them both and the friend will support your relationship; absolutely invaluable if you (inevitably) screw up later on when dating her cute friend.

Focus on creating a fun vibe with the girl you’re not attracted to. Be warm, friendly, crack jokes and generally entertaining. For the girl you’re interested in, be much more seductive: maintain stronger eye contact, slow things down, talk more emotively and challenge her – just be friendly towards her and you’ll end up as her friend as well. Then you’ll have to spend more time with that annoying BFF! Disaster!

Remember, next time you want to hit on a hottie with a best friend “guarding” her, make the dynamic work for you rather than against you:

  • Soothe the less cute friend’s insecurities by showing a warmth and interest towards them both.
  • Don’t enrage the friend’s jealousy by immediately trying to isolate the girl you like – instead win them both over.
  • Make friends with the friend: remember she has a lot of power over the girl you want to date. So make her your most powerful ally instead of your worst enemy.

Do these things and not only could you end up with a hot date… but you could also score a new, cool female friend in the process.

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