Guys are always asking me for first date ideas. Typically, I first ask the respective guy what it is that he has in mind. Then, he usually spits something out at me about an Italian dinner and a newly released movie. And I yawn.
Inherently, there’s nothin dull about the dinner-and-a-movie scenario. However, there’s also nothing necessarily charming about this safe duo, either. Why not impress a girl on your first date with her instead of giving her the same itinerary every other guy gives her?
You don’t have to rule out food or movies! You just have make the date more specific to the individual you are taking out, and the common bonds you two have.
So here are five (very broad) personality types, and a flawless date for your girl. And if your girl is a bit of a few things…don’t worry. There’s nothing wrong with mixing these ideas up a little bit.
THE ARTSY GIRL:
Sure, you can take her to a restaurant–but make it interesting! There are restaurants where you can draw on the tables, sit on the floors, cook your own food. Heck, I even had a guy take me out to a Thai place with leopard skin walls and Radiohead playing (yes, we notice these things)–and that was f*cking rad!
All in all, your artsy girl is gonna want something more compelling than an expensive pasta and wine. Take her somewhere cool for dessert. What’s cool? Well, it’s not ordering cheesecake at the place you just had dinner. Take her to the best neighborhood bakery, or a coffee shop with good art.
If you want to take her to a movie, try finding a drive-in or an independent film theater, somewhere. Or just take her to see a really cool underground band. She’ll be impressed, I promise.
THE SPORTY GIRL
Do you really think your standard tomboy/sporty girl wants to spend her first date with you all wrapped up in trying to be ‘girly’ at a nice restaurant? Hells no. I’d recommend finding the place in town with the best burgers and hot dogs and hitting it up for some grub and beers.
Grab some ice cream on your way to a sporting event of your choice. It doesn’t have to be a major league baseball game. It could be your cousin’s little league. And you don’t have to only watch. There’s no shame in playing foosball at a fun bar while watching the game!
THE BRAINY GIRL
Have a feeling the girl you’re taking out got a 1600 on her SATs? Well, then you’ve got your work cut out for you. Intelligent people DO generally want to be surrounding by other intelligent people. Their brains strive on learning new things, so if you can teach her a thing or two, and you might have a shot.
So, do some research. Find a nice restaurant and educate yourself on its background, the wines served, the history of the respective country. Go crazy. She’ll be impressed by your useless knowledge. Try some sort of fancy foreign dessert before you head to a play, ballet, or make out session at the library.
THE FUNNY GIRL
Funny girls are probably going to try to embarrass you at a nice restaurant-so don’t give them the opportunity. Instead, take them somewhere hilarious. Chuck-E-Cheese? Dinner Theater? This kind of sh*t is hilarious, and if she has a true sense of humor, she’ll love it.
Stop to split a giant cookie after, then take her somewhere perfect: a hilarious movie, southern style bar, comedy show, or anywhere else where she can just chill and be her normal, hilarious self.
FOR THE PRISSY GIRL
This girl is the one you want to take on the cliche dates. The cheesier, the better. She will be impressed by an expensive dinner. She will be impressed by roses and carriage rides. If you’re really into a girl who you know deep down is kind of prissy, you’d better accept it and treat her like a princess.
The best dessert? Strawberries dipped in chocolate. Duh. Buy her cosmos at a quiet lounge. Then take her dancing. She’s used to being treated like a princess, but she’s NOT used to a guy making her come out of her shell.
BASIC RULESNo matter the girl, here are some basic rules you should always try to keep in mind:
-Treat her like a lady even if she thinks it’s silly. Trust me, all girls like being treated like a lady and they all take this into consideration after a date.
-Let her pay if she wants to. Most girls appreciate a guy offering to pay her way through a date, but if a girl insists on paying (insists=saying it more than once), then let her! Some girls really do not want to be taken out by a guy who feels the need to cover all expenses-it makes them feel weak and insecure.
-Don’t come off too strongly. Even if she wants to jump your bones at the end of the night, girls will always respect a guy who can wait it out on the first date. The second date, however, is fair game.
-Don’t flirt with other girls. This should be a given. Just because she’s not your girlfriend, she is still the lady you are with, and she deserves your full attention.
If you need to take a call or text during the date, try not to take up your together-time doing so. It leaves a sour first impression on the girl. If you’re tempted to text every 10 minutes, just turn the stupid thing off.
-General no-no. Don’t bring up exes. Don’t do it.
-Don’t order her around! Maybe you’ve got this perfect date planned, but still ask her what she thinks of the night’s events before assuming she’s down.
If you can’t get it right now, maybe it’s time to find a good hobby.