You are not alone, my loveless friend. When I speak at schools, I discover at least two male virgins in every lecture I give. That’s cool. But how does a guy go about getting rid of his virginity if he actually wants to ‘ and with a hot woman, no less?
Mike is one of these guys. He’s an 18-year old freshman at William Patterson University and a communications major. As you can see, he’s not ugly or weird. He’s just not getting what he wants. ‘My biggest problem with girls is the fear of rejection,’ he says. ‘I had to live with this during high school, and itâs still a problem. I always get turned down.’
I can get guys like Mike to the Promised Land, but it takes time and, more importantly, confidence. My first goal with Mike is to teach him to walk tall. With confidence, I guaranteed he would meet a girl in one week. Let’s see if I’m good!
Day 1 Assignment: Smile at girls as you pass by. This slows down the mind and avoids any fear of ‘conversation’ (that’s for later!).
Hey, Dave. I noticed a lot of girls are actually quite friendly. When I smiled at them, they actually smiled back. This was fun and pretty easy!
Day 2: Keep up the smile but add a ‘Hello’ to the mix.
I passed girls on campus today and smiled and said hello. They actually smiled and said hello back! If this is easy, actual conversation has to be easier.
Day 3: Closely observe the Girls You Like. This is opening-line ammo!
I observed several girls. One of them was wearing a white long-sleeve T-shirt, jeans and brown boots and a yellow Yankees cap, and she had all her books in a huge Louis Vuitton bag. Another girl had an interesting necklace with something resembling a â@â? symbol, and a girl in my English class has a Motorola phone that you can use as a walkie-talkie.
Day 4: Start flirting! Go up to every girl and observe something about them ‘ and then start some verbal batting practice.
I had a small conversation with this one girl at the movie theater I work at. I just said ‘nice slippers’ and we started talking about why women wear socks and sandals together. Kind of fun. I also had a short conversation with this girl in my music class. Her nameâs Andrea; sheâs an art/photography major and seems sweet.
Day 5: Get some digits!
Youâre going to love this. At this Calvin Klein outlet, there was this one really smoking girl named Veronica. She was wearing these really interesting earrings, and had about the deepest blue eyes Iâd ever seen. So I was talking to her about her earrings, and finally she offers up this: âHereâs my employee number. I get 45 percent off everything in the store. Just mention me when you go to the register.’ She also gave me her IM address!
RESULTS: Five days, three dances, an IM exchange with an older (drinking-age) girl AND a nearly half-off discount at a name-brand store. Is it sex? No. Is it a really good start? You bet.