Depending on your own personality and sexual history, the concept of a girl’s number (how many people they’ve slept with) might be a tough subject to talk about. There are, of course, men who don’t care at all, but I would venture to say that they’d be in the minority. Not many people are excited about dating the town bicycle. So in this week’s HS/SS, we’ll be discussing the subject of your significant other’s sexual history and whether or not it should worry you.
Right off the bat, if you’re just interested in hooking up, it shouldn’t matter to you if the girl has hooked up with a lot of people. If anything, you want this number to be higher; your job is inherently easier and she’s less likely to get attached. Just bring a condom.
Things get a little more difficult when you’re actively trying to explore something other than busting a nut. Not only because you start worrying about whether or not every guy she introduces you to is your eskimo cousin but because its a difficult subject to talk about.
That’s why (like most things) I suggest having this conversation over a drink or two. As I’m sure you know, this is a subject that can come up often so don’t worry about trying to find a smooth way to transition to this discussion.
But talking about it is the easy part. What comes next is where most of the issues come from.
No matter what her number is (remember to add 5 to whatever she says), what’s important is where she is at her point in her life and where you are in yours (more on this later). If she let the lax team run train on her in college but is now emotionally stable and interested in you, I would suggest trying to make it work. That’s obviously a lot easier said than done, but no one ever said relationships are easy.
On the same note, dating a virgin really isn’t a good thing. Virgins suck at having sex because, well, they’ve never had it. Unless you’re both in the same boat or she’s a sexy pastor’s daughter, move on.
But back to where you are in your life, because whatever she’s done in the past is old news. Are you comfortable enough with yourself dating someone who’s slept with over fourty guys? Hopefully the answer is yes but it’s entirely understandable if you’re not. It’s important to remember that when you were a single buck in the wild, you were constantly trying to hump everything that moved. I know it’s lame to bring up the double standard of “pimp” vs. “whore” but it’s 100% applicable here.
All I’m trying to say is that life is about trying to have a good time. It’s easy to blame someone for doing that but at the same time, you’re possibly losing out on having a food one with them in the future.