How Do Men Feel Being The ‘Other Guy?’ In Someone Else’s Relationship [HE SAID / SHE SAID]

By Wyatt December 19, 2012 5:45 pm Posted in Dating & Sex, Features, Lifestyle Wyatt g+ page

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The question this week is whether or not I have a problem being the guy that some girl is cheating with. Both the long and short answers are “no.”

If I’m a single man and some woman is trying to get it on with me, of course I’m giving it the green light. She’s going to bone someone, so why not have it be me?

So instead of talking about circumstances where I would have sex with someone in a relationship, let’s talk about the three instances where I absolutely wouldn’t. Those are always more interesting anyways:

1) If she’s my ex-girlfriend. Nope. No way. An ex-girlfriend who wants to cheat on her boyfriend with you is a great way to end up with a broken nose or a broken heart. If her boyfriend finds out, he’ll beat the shit out of you and probably leave her. That leaves both of you where you last left off: upset and together.

2) If she’s my friend’s girlfriend. I don’t have my Guy Code rulebook handy, but I’m pretty sure that it’s in there somewhere that this is a bad move.

3) If I’m in a relationship. Then we’re both cheating and then I feel bad.

Considering that I’m usually in a relationship, this thought process (that the “other guy” isn’t at fault) can be pretty scary. But that’s just the shitty world we live in. And no, that doesn’t give other men excuses to hit on my girlfriend. This discussion only concerns the situation when the girl is hitting on you. Any man actively trying to get a woman to cheat on their significant other is a scumbag looking to get his head beat in.