Do Friends With Benefits Ever Work? [HE SAID / SHE SAID]
Thankfully, the answer is yes. ‘Friends With Benefits’ is like pretty much the greatest agreement ever made between two consenting adults. Sex whenever you want? Check. Hanging out with a great friend? Check. Having to take her out dinner every Friday night? Hell no! What do you think this is, a relationship? The only problem with the FWB arrangement is that it does walk a pretty tight line. You always hear about one of the parties getting their feelings hurt but how can you avoid that? It’s unfortunately not as easy as it should be.
The first key is knowing why you want a friend with benefits. Are you just looking for that constant girl in your life? Then you probably don’t want to explore the option of FWB. As far-fetched as it might sound, there’s always the possibility that you might be the one who gets dumped for an actual boyfriend that she’s found down the line. I suggest trying to go a different route if you’re just trying to lock up a lucky lady.
Since this is a two-way street, let’s move onto her. What kind of girl is she? Your best bet is to find one of your friends that’s had problems with boyfriends in the past. No, I’m not suggesting that you prey on her, you sick f*ck, I’m merely pointing out that she’s probably sick of relationships and the bullsh*t nonsense that’s involved with it. Why not step in and be the knight in shining armor who’s not interested in anything else but having a good time?
Look, the golden rule of relationships is being honest with yourself. Do I look good enough to hit on this girl? No, well then do I have the confidence to do it anyway? What’s going to be my gameplan? Am I just going to start up a natural conversation? Yada, yada, yada… That same rule applies to here. You need to know what kind of personalities are involved in the fun. Otherwise that fun can turn into a nightmare. Long story short, yes, Friends With Benefits can work.