When it comes to women, everyone has their particular type. Some like ’em big, some like ’em small, some like ’em rich and successful… you get the idea. Once you get past the necessary physical attraction you need to have, I’m way more of a big picture kind of guy. Like a lot of things in life, the small things are often just bonuses that don’t really matter in the long run. (Think cute girl with perky boobs or a roommate with a puppy). What matters to me is having an unforced, common ground I can share with my lady. This is what separates a keeper from another girl I meet while I’m out.[lead image via Shutterstock]
Do we listen to the same music? Are we into the same kind of movies? While it sounds simple, these kind of things are important. I’m the way I am because of what I grew up liking when I was younger. I can’t (and won’t) change that regardless of how a girl looks. I like punk rock and the blues. I like being overly sarcastic. I like being around my heavily tattooed friends whose appearance sometimes scares old ladies. Most importantly, I love being around live music. If my girl gets this, we’ll get along swimmingly–even if we don’t share the same favorite band or go to the same kind of shows. When a girl lets me be me and is still into me, not only do I reciprocate the appreciation, but it makes for a relationship where neither party has to keep their guard up.
Let me clarify that a girl doesn’t have to have exactly the same interests as me. Why would I want to date myself? (Note: two of me in the world would be terrifyingly awesome, but I don’t think we’re ready for that one yet.) What I meant was that I just ask my girl to have the same values as me. If a girl only wears designer stuff, if she only wants to go to the trendy clubs and do bottle service, that’s fine. It just means that “it” will never work out between us. That’s not my style. People are into what they’re into and (in many instances) it’s our differences that make us interesting. There are too many godd*mn people in the world to waste your time trying to appease someone of the opposite sex.
It’s really not that hard. Guys, if you’re lookin’ to actually date a girl, make sure you have more in common than the ability to plow each other’s brains out on the reg. Ladies, if you’re actually reading this instead of the College Candy side of this article, don’t try and force your guy to be the way you want him. Let him actually do the things he wants to and hang with his friends. If you don’t like the things he’s doing, then you should probably reconsider being with him in the first place.
That’s all for this week, folks. Until next time, party so hard you accidentally pay child support on someone else’s kid.