I honestly forget where I came up with the idea for this week’s “He Said / She Said“, but, I got to thinking about all the different social media profiles dudes have these days and it got me hankering (yeah, I just dropped “hankering” on your ass) for a time when your accessibility was toned way down; when there was only one or two ways to get in touch with someone – mail (as in the Post Office) or landline phone (as in I’m not home, I’m not taking your call). That time reminds me of Zack Morris on Saved by the Bell and how he’d arrange like 8 dates on the same night. Sure, he got caught but only because it’s a TV show that tried to teach a lesson about cheating, normally he’d be golden.
Look at some of history’s most notorious cheaters and it seems to me like technology did them in. Tiger Woods, Tony Parker, Jesse James, Anthony Weiner, Ashton Kutcher – it was the cell phone that caught them with their pants down. Though there have been apps released to cover one’s tracks quite literally, there’s probably another app that can uncover them. Do I sound like a really old curmudgeon right now? Yes. But, in a world where privacy is quickly disintegrating, doesn’t it make most ladies men crave the “good ol’ days” when they could hook up with one chick at 9 and excuse himself for that late night booty call at midnight without getting a million texts?
It’s true that it’s way easier to hook up for single guys given the available modes of communication at their disposal. If you’re not hooking up, you’re not utilizing your Facebook, Twitter, Foursquare, Tumblr, YouTube, Vimeo, LinkedIn, or Google Plus effectively. You can maintain text convos with 5 different chicks, check in wherever and then play the singles card when interrogated by scorned hook ups. No one knows except you. It makes one wonder why a guy would EVER get into a relationship.
But, in that same respect, I’m blown away that people are still able to cheat. Married men and women who somehow carve out grey areas and secret meet-ups when there are cameras in every corner and every pocket. These people have lying on lock down. Though despicable, you must give them credit for their ingenuity.
So, is technology a bad thing for relationships? There have been numerous reports citing Facebook as a major motive for divorce. These addition platforms open up new channels for doubt and suspicion. While more people are meeting online and starting new relationships, they’re also deceiving online. However, couples can stay better connected while apart, which can either wear on or strengthen the couple’s bond.
For cheaters, technology can provide the person with more opportunities to cheat, but it’s a double-edged sword – there are subsequently more opportunities to get caught. So, while most conservatives believe technology is the tool of the devil – it provides a Big Brother-like security system that will (eventually) out adulterers. We at COED don’t condone cheating but if you had the itch or felt the urge or if your partner cheated first and you wanted retribution you’re better off completely falling off the grid. Technology will do you in. Hell, Siri will become the biggest stool pigeon of all! What do you think? Vote in our poll and sound off in the commments.