Sometimes the best relationship advice a guy can get comes straight from a woman. Although a hard pill to swallow, it seems they often know more about us than we do; particularly what men do right and wrong when it comes to dating. Taking into account many of the traits involved in meeting women (ego, standards, confidence, insecurity, and the dreaded pick up lines), professional ‘wing girl’ Marni Kinrys shared her top ten list of critical points guys need to address when playing the field.
But, first, a little background on our Wing Girl: The University of Western Ontario graduate took her Psychology degree and a keen sense of technological potential to create The Wing Girl Method. If that’s not enough curriculum vitae for ya… how’s this: She was most recently awarded “World’s Best Female Pick-Up Artist” from the World PUA Summit in Hollywood, CA and awarded World’s Best Wing Girl 2010 at the Global Pick Up Conference.
Now, on to the good stuff…
Stop putting women, you know nothing about, on pedestals. YES they are hot, YES other men may want them but that does not mean that all self-respect gets thrown out the door. Respect yourself first and women will follow!
2. Bad Boys
Women DO NOT like bad boys and players. Not sure who started this rumor but do you seriously think women sit around and say “Oh Marni, why can’t I meet a jerk who is unreliable, has no direction and plays games .” Women want MAN not a boy. MAN translates to a male that is self assured, calm, cool, collected, comfortable and has the ability to lead. A genuine, authentic character will trump looks and “bad boy” qualities almost every time.
3. Eight Days a Week
There is never a BAD time to approach a woman. Women want to be approached, as long as it’s by the right person. There are a million and one reasons you can come up with as to why a woman may not be interested in you. She has a boyfriend, you’re too short, not rich enough, she’s “busy” right now, I don’t know what to say…. But you will never know for sure until you approach her. The only way to get what you want is by asking for it. Stop making excuses and APPROACH.
4. Bottoms Up
Get off your butt! How are you going to meet women if you are sitting at home on the couch watching tons of “how to get women” videos. If you’re plan is to seduce the UPS delivery woman then stay put. If not get off your butt at least 1-2 times per week and do something social.
5. I Want You To Want Me
Be direct and state your intentions ALWAYS. So many men say to me “I can’t just go up to her and blatantly tell her I am interested in her”. Why the hell can’t you do that? You think she doesn’t already know? You’re not approaching her because you really want to know her opinion on organic vs. natural. The ONLY way to get what you want is by asking for it. Worst that can happen is she says “NO”.
6. Smooth Operator
There is no RIGHT thing to say to a woman. BUT there is a RIGHT WAY to say it. Line up 10 men and have them say the same “successful” pick up line to a woman. Do you think this woman will be attracted to all 10 men? Not a chance. She will be attracted the man that said the line the right way. RIGHT WAY = presence, intention and character.
7. Somebody’s Watching Me
Giving you attention does not translate into “I’m Interested”. Just because a woman gives you 5 minutes of her undivided attention does not mean she is into you. Women are polite and would never say to your face, “sorry, you are not for me”. They will, however, stand and listen to you for 5 minutes and then find an excuse as to why she has to leave.
8. Jenny I’ve Got Your Number
A phone number does not guarantee success. This one goes hand and hand with the tip above. It’s easier for a woman to hand out her phone number then reject you straight to your face.
9. Let’s Get it On
All women are sexual, sensual creatures waiting to be released. Truth is women are actually MORE sexual than men. Tap into a woman’s sensual side and she will be yours forever.
10. I Saw the Sign
If a woman is nodding her head, giving you one-word answers and has her body faced away from you, SHE IS NOT INTERESTED. However, if she is focused, engaged in conversation, touches you slightly and re-applies her lip gloss “GAME ON”.
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