In case you get the wrong idea, this isn’t going to be one of those articles that tells you in disturbing detail how to find my G-spot or give me multiple orgasms – I trust you can all figure that out all by yourself (if not though, there’s some pretty clear instructions here and here ;)). My goal here is to help you out with the other aspects of sex; the minor details that guys often dismiss as being unimportant and girls see as lavish, extended foreplay.
This is all part of the build-up to an amazing night of pure indulgent sex, the kind that leaves you panting and dizzy, exhilarated but exhausted. This kind of sex does not come from a spontaneous quicky before we go to sleep, it is born out of a well-planned evening of decedent romance and ferocious pampering. This important evening can be achieved in five steps. It might involve more effort than you would usually go to but I promise, the end result will be well worth it! ;)
1) Have me fantasizing about you all day long
Just because I’m not with you, that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t be thinking about you! Coming home to the prospect of nice sex just won’t cut it. You need to get me fantasizing from morning til night – no matter where I am. If I’m sitting in a psychology class, you and sex are the last things on my mind. Until, that is, a naughty but incredibly sexy picture pops up on the screen of my phone and suddenly, I can’t avoid thinking about you. And sex. And me and you having sex…match these pics with a few saucy text messages and you’ll have me sprung the whole day through!
2) Feed me!
Hungry girls are not happy girls. Being wined and dined is a luxury for me and one that I often associate with romance, lust and high expectations. Whether you cook for me yourself or take me to a nice restaurant, there’s no overestimating how special a nice dinner can make a girl feel. Add a few glasses of wine to the mix and I’ll really begin to feel the burn of desire. A romantic meal adds a sense of elegance to the evening – something that many girls need in order to truly feel right about having sex.
3) Touch me
So we’ve eaten dinner and now we’re chilling out on the couch, drinking wine, eating a luscious strawberry and chocolate dessert and watching the sexy chick flicks you’ve so selflessly picked out for us (these are the sacrifices that must be made boys!). Now as a post-pubescent adult, you are savvy enough to know better than to throw yourself mercilessly at me right this second while I’m still getting past a brief meltdown about how much gym-time that indulgent meal is going to cost me while simultaneously trying to work out how the movie-love-triangle will untangle itself to everyone’s satisfaction. It still isn’t the time for sex, but you also don’t want to risk losing the mood – one spoonful of chocolate too much and I’m ready for bed. What you need to do now is to remind me where the night is headed and there is only one way to keep this momentum going: physical contact. Start at my knee and gentle graze your hand along my thigh until I’m tingling, and once again I can’t avoid thinking about sex. Brush my hair away from my face and tenderly stroke my neck. If I lean over, reach out and touch the base of my back – just for a moment. The tingles of delight should now be running through my entire body and although I still may not be ready for action right now, my body will already be responding to your touch, thereby sizing itself up for what is to come.
4) Massage me
Many guys are reluctant to reach this point of intimacy, simply because it’s not part of the average dinner-movie-sex combo. But a guy that is willing to break away from what he knows in order to satisfy each intricate fiber of my body – that is the guy that I am going to give up all my inhibitions for in the bedroom. The truth is that sexual stimulation can be achieved in many many different ways and a guy using his strong hands to release the tension in my bones is one way to seriously rile me up. I mean, when am I going to more in the mood to have sex with you than right after you’ve just rubbed my naked body from head to toe, both relaxing and stimulating me to the utter extreme? So for one night, just put your ego aside and go for it. The other guys will never have to know that you became my slave for a little while one night – and if they ever do find out, just explain to them what I did for you right after!
5) Bring some toys
Durex is a wonderful brand, filled with diversity and choice. So next time you’re out shopping for the big night, invest in more than just flavored condoms (although definitely do still invest in those!). Lubes, vibrators, rings…these are among just some of the play things that can spice up even the most exciting sex. There’s a whole line of toys devoted to Sex in the Shower here. My favorite girlie girl sex gels, toys and seductives come from Pure Romance (Check them out here at www.PureRomance.com). I love using these sex enhancers and I love it even more when my guy takes the initiative to surprise me with them. Of course, this all depends on how comfortable we are with each other. First date? Maybe hold off on the toys until you get a feel for her sex-style – some girls may not be thrilled about introducing gadgets to the mix. But sometimes after a while, new toys are needed to keep the momentum going, even if the sex is just as amazing as always. Don’t forget that fantasies are important too – find out what I’ve always wanted and make it happen for me, even if it means wearing a stupid costume or playing a role. Sex should always be a new experience and you should be willing to do whatever it takes to keep me wanting more. Handcuffs? Spanking? A bunny rabbit outfit? Find out what I want from you and fulfill me.
Always remember, a girl wants more out of a night of sex than just sex. Give me romance, give me suspense, give me a reason to rip your clothes off before we even reach the bedroom. If you do all this, I promise we’ll both be screaming enough to shake the house down to the foundation tonight.