Top Secret: Sex Positions that Women Love

Sex shouldn’t resemble Naked Twister. Too much twisting and contorting can leave a woman feeling like a sexless member of Cirque du Soleil. “Unlike men, women can lose an orgasm almost in the midst of having one,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First and He Comes Next. The solution? This simple series of positions, designed to help you flow naturally from move to move without ending up like a flesh pretzel.

Missionary position


It’s tame, but it’s a natural starter because of strong eye contact, says Kerner. “But men often ejaculate faster because of the friction.” To last longer and keep her happy, switch to a move that maintains clitoral pressure without so much thrusting.

Spider sex position


Sit back and pull her toward you while you both lift your knees. “Physically, it allows her to feel a deeper, more intense, more intimate stimulation than missionary, with less friction,” says Candida Royalle, author of How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do.

See more positions after the jump. 

Reverse Cowgirl

Reverse Cowgirl

Encourage her to turn around and face away from you. This creates G-spot stimulation for her, and the change will help you hold out longer. If she seems uncomfortable on top, resume the spider or try the spork, two natural transitions



“It’s the most arousing position for men, because it’s the most primal,” says Linda Banner, Ph.D., author of Advanced Sexual Techniques. The angle also allows for deeper penetration, which ups your chances of stimulating her G-spot

Belly Flop

Belly Flop

Grab a pillow and enjoy a little downtime. “Lay the woman on her stomach with the pillow under her hips so her pelvis is angled and you have a better chance of hitting her G-spot,” says Banner. Extend your arms to keep the weight off her.

Lazy Man

Lazy Man

Here’s another move that maintains intimacy. Simply lean back and gently pull her on top. “This can help women feel in control,” says Sarah Janosik, a sex therapist and cofounder and clinical director of the Austin Center for Sexual Medicine.



Similar to spooning but slightly more ambitious, this position makes a natural bridge to more creative positions. “If she’s limber enough, he can also lift her leg, thus increasing penetration,” says René Hollander, Ph.D., a sex therapist.

Man Chair

Man Chair

Once past the basics, positions become “more about psychological novelty,” says Kerner. Doggy-style is about your dominance, but from there you can naturally transition into this rear-entry position that puts her in the driver’s seat.Move logically between positions to increase her arousal.aa



    1. munnoobai says:

      i for the forth time faces pre ejaculation without entering in to my girl friend. what is the reason?

      1. chris says:

        your to anxious and your not in control, i stay as long as two or more hours as long as she wants it .you can ping me so i can explain to you how to achieve that and have a good sex life. blackberry ping 30805967 chris

    2. james says:


    3. monique says:

      because it is

    4. Tina says:

      doggy…definitely #1

    5. kellie says:

      you need more positions

    6. slim says:

      i need to know some sex tips to satify my womanin bed.

    7. Fred says:


    8. Archie B says:

      Some guys can hold out for unbelievable amounts of time (I know; I've seen the videos!). But if you can't, I think this article should suggest interspersing a little cunnilingus to keep her moving toward her shangri-la while you get to reset and not worry about coming faster than a jungle monkey!


    9. brian says:

      slim says :

      August 2, 2008 at 11:30 pm

      i need to know some sex tips to satify my womanin bed.


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